She Loves Smiles: little words

I have something for you:

Whatever we may do in the present, when we come across situations that are hard to deal with, we always seem to blame the past. When we haven't been raised by our own parents, that we somehow feel disconnected with those who are raised by their own parents or whenever we just came out of an abused/horrible/icky relationship, we can't seem to find love that easily and built up this invisible wall around us. But why so? that's the hard question to answer, because we are led to believe that everything we go through is way harder than it actually really is.
And though it might be hard to believe that our problems don't need to effect our present, it is the truth.
We have to see it as a sort of circle of negativity we're pulled in, whenever we experience negative things. We may not see this circle, but it's what we feel inside of us. But we have got to know, that these are all illusions.
How can we be genuinely happy if we keep believing in these illusions, Men made us believe?

We have got to dig deep,
no excuses,
no keep turning back into the past,
no excuses,
it's about our own lives.

our own happiness, that is all.

Because we are not held back by the love we didn't recieve in the past, but we are held back by the love we are not willing to recieve in the present.

cylia loves smiles

P.s. I wish you all a very, very good and loving New Year 2009! Make sure you make a lovely wish or commitment to yourself at the counting! To better ourselves.

She Loves Smiles: little words

I have something for you:

We have one life and why not live your life to the very fullest? When you have the opportunities, try and make something out of it. Sometimes we think that we have to seek for our own happiness and have to seek for God. But that’s where it’s misunderstood. It’s already there, He is already here. We just have to be a landing place, where everything can land in our life. Choose to be free and choose to be happy, my friend.

It might be hard in the beginning, but when we do, we feel so much more alive and we do not have to worry about, really, unnecessary things like: have to have the newest clothes, tanning, watch in everything that can reflect ourselves, get drunk because we don’t dare to go on the dance floor without alcohol, put on too much make-up, get nervous when we see someone that’s perfect according to the media, get nervous because we come across types of people we dislike, buy or look into every fashion magazine that’s in the store, to look good in every picture that’s taken of us, to have lenses instead of glasses because we don’t want to look dorky, walk very fast whenever we are in a place that’s making us feel a little bit uncomfortable, hate things/persons because we know it reminds us of something/someone that didn't make us feel ok, make pictures where we show more of us than we should with the intention that guys/girls will like us more, get nervous around famous people, be loud/rude because we want attention, pose a certain way whenever pictures are taken of us, wanting to know what others think of us, and just, be in fear all the time and have the urge of being someone we are not.

Tell me, do you have a ‘secret’?


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She Loves Smiles: little words

I have something for you:

Today, I'm going to write my little words based on this sentence: Don't take anything personal.

In the world we are living in right now, it's hard to avoid the fear that's among us. And when someone has to say something to you, that might hurt a bit or a lot, it can sometimes be a little overwhelming.. But that's where we have to draw a line!

When we do not take things personal, we can easily feel free from the fear and be happy with whatever, whenever.
When people say bad things about us and we take it personal, we are giving into the poison that person is trying to poison us with.
When we take it personal, we are not free and we will be far away from feeling happy with our own life.

When someone says to me: "Cylia, you are so ugly it hurts my eyes," or "Cylia, you can't do anything right, you are a piece of worthless shit.", I will not take this personal, because I know, it does not say anything about me. Because I know the things that person just said to me, says nothing about me, but says something about that person. That person is poisened by his/her own behaviour.
Even when people say good things about me, I do not take it personal. It doesn't mean you can't be happy with the lovely comments, but it's about the art of feeling completely happy about yourself without bad or good comments.

We know we are strong, we know we can make it, we know we are wonderful, we know we can reach the impossible, we know it all. And most of all, we know we are not weak.
The person who says bad things about you is trying to poison you and is hoping you'll give in to this. But we know we are not weak, so we will not give in and we will not take over the ugly poison, that person may have spread, because we know that we are strong.

you are so, so worth it!

cylia loves smiles

'If you haven't tried things more than a hundred times, then you have never lived your own life. -Cylia'

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She Loves Smiles: little words

I have something for you:

It's almost Christmas! but really, in this period of time.. especially us, women, we can feel the changes of each season. And, well, December might be portrayed as a fun and loving month, but it can be also a month of loneliness and emptiness. We, of course, have to avoid these. But how?

1. Make sure you don't exclude yourself from the fun that comes with most of people their Christmas! It doesn't matter if you've never had a nice, loving, warm X-mas.. it's just, we do not have to make ourselves even more miserable. If Santa is no where to find near you, no worries! Sometimes, we do not have to find the love in anybody else, but we have to look for it our own. So, it will definitely not harm anyone, if we buy ourselves our own lovely gift! **And look at it this way: now, you don't have to go through those moments of grin-and-bear-it teeth gnashing whenever you get a gift you don't actually wanted..

2. Make your own 'dream-plan/life'. What's better than to be swept away by your own unlimited fantasy for just a while? And don't leave it with just thinking.. write it down!

First, make two lists to make your dream even more clear. The first list is everything you would like to have in your life, it can either be changes about yourself or changes about situations you're in (or no changes at all!). The second list is everything you would like to get rid of in your life..

Then, if your two lists are done, you can start making your dream-plan/life. Maybe you've always dreamed about having a charity to help children suffering from Aids? Or a shop, or something as small as a new bike that you'll keep your whole life? You name it! It's your dream and it's your fantasy! Go for it. **Nobody has to see your dream lists at all, you can just keep it all to yourself..

3. Go on the Internet and go to all sorts of sites that'll make you forget the whole Christmissy theme.. I've got a couple of sites for you:

- http://www.quizilla.com/ (Imagine it, create it, share it);

- http://344design.typepad.com/ (Daily Monsters! make your own.. or meet all the other monsters!);

- http://www.playlist.com/?home=a (Make your own playlist! like the one on She Loves Smiles blog);

- http://www.purelessons.com/ (Always wanted to play piano? Well here's your chance! With a video and all, it's way easier!);

- http://www.compoundgallery.com/, http://www.sourharvest.com/thinkspace/ (For artsy fartiesss, follow their blogs or buy/check out all the lovely art!);

- http://flickr.com/ (Share your photos, watch the world);

Well. that will keep ya busy! oh! you can also make one of those funny e-cards! send it to anyoneee, anyone will appreciate some love in Christmas time. promise.

4. Smile whenever you feel like smiling! Randomly somewhere, everywhere. Help ourselves feel more like ourselves. Even if we just feel a smile popping up in our head instead upon our faces, it doesn't matter, it's just the feeling we need to love when we are smiling..

any other tips anyone? leave one for the better!

cylia loves smiles

p.s. I want a white, white Christmas! what do you want? Help me pray for a fun, snowy Christmas this year! Slideeee, slide away with our sledsss!

there's no need to hate - Jun. 28th, 2007 - 7:04 pm - Cylia:

"It's all fake, if you call anyone fake, then we are all fake ok. nobody can hate if you've never tasted the world, hate is such a weak conclusion and way out. with hate you only persue more hate, which is never fun. everybody deals their problems and confusing emotions/feelings differently so we, in the end, have different opinions on different sides, because we have different amount or a different side of experience. which makes this all so complicated, which it really isn't at all. some are given patient, some are given unpatient. some are given shy and some are given loud. all different, but actually if you look closer, the emotions that are behind these being completey shy or being completely loud in first appeareance is total different, because these emotions are just something that we see in people the most, which is another confusing thing. we see these emotions in some people the most and then we automatically label them as being thé loud one or thé shy one. which is what we call 'stereotyped'. it's the emotions that we see in them the most, but it doesn't mean they're completely like that? no. it isn't how they're like, because you see, as nobody will mostly understand, is that we are all the same. we have the same heart and the same emotions, but some feelings of others are just more 'out there' and some not. if you look closely, and compare these emotions step by step, you'll see that we have the same problems all together, but just in a different way. which is also a thing that is very confusing, we just don't seem to get each other. and this all, put a shame on our foreheads. a big shame.

and makes this all to a point and a conclusion, i'm too lazy to even talk about this any further, because this robe will never end. very sad, i wish i could make an end to the silly minds that are wondering, wondering to make their 'dream come true'. it's blind. everyone is blind, blind to their own life. especially the young people who get drawn into these groups that made them 'save' and rebellish.

and all they ever say is: 'now listen, motha fucka. there's no need to fucking shout at me and say fucking shit, because you don't know who i am. you don't know what i've gone through, so shut the fuck up and watch, you'll see. shut the fuck upp, you don't know shittt.'
oh. well, don't we know shit then? how in the world are we so smart then? how in the world are things being invented then? how in the world are you still alive then? how in the world do you get fancy clothes and smell nice then? how come ha? uh.. maybe because we live in a rich and wealthy side of the world? and don't need to 'fucking' complain about the situation? don't make it worse. because it's already bad. there's absolutely no reason for anybody to act this way. nonsense. i mean, just look at yourself and question yourself what in the world you are really doing? and for who in the world you are really doing it for? to impress? probably."

cylia loves smiles

She Loves Smiles: little words

I have something for you:

We want peace in our minds and we want to feel free in our own life.. but where to begin?

How much we want people to think and understand things the way we think and understand them, we can't change people. We can have influence on other people, but in the end, it's the choice of another. We can only work on ourselves and that's where we have to begin. It's to start on ourselves than to be all overwhelemd by the emotions or actions of other people. Start with yourself.

Begin a day where you try to observe everything you are doing and how this effects others. If we are happy with ourselves, we can be happy for others. If we are not happy with ourselves, it's hard to be happy for others.

Another tip: you can also start a conversation with a mirror (I know, sounds totally out of place), and you will see yourself in a different light. You can also record yourself while having a conversation with a camera and see the results afterwards. It's quite funny, try it.

So before we judge, we need to think about ourselves first.

It's important to get to know ourselves more, to eventually know how to genuinely be happy for someone else.

cylia loves smiles

"A lotery. with luck you can win one. balancing our way to the top, our goals and wishes. the feeling that's seeking for truth. Unconsicously living a lie, following into deep. we can achieve so many great things, with power and strength. walk away from the negative and give yourself a rest. dont hesitate, dont doubt. it's of course your decision in the end. but dont lose yourself by impressing others. dont let your soul be taken away by others. make chances that'll benefit you. think about the lovely things. deepest and darkest thoughts are hidden away in your head. afraid or scared. where will it take me. out of place, blindfold. where lays the solution, its up to you. if you dont step it up, no one will. -Cylia" (my oldest quote, from 2004)


cylia loves smiles

smile with all your heart...



something I wrote maybe, 2 years ago:

i can ask for 'unique' people,
people who will shine through their flaws and isnt 'fake'.
but how many of those are there?
not many.
and how easy are they to find?
and if you find them,
arent you just placing yourself into a 'group'?
so many people describe; 'dont judge a book by its cover'.
but how many people do so?
so people who you call fake, arent they just as equal as you are?
just because of their looks doesnt mean they act so,
maybe their shell,
and they might be hard on the outside,
but theyre as jiggly as a soft pudding on the inside.
well,
while you're intense searching for those,
i'll be meeting up some real people.
you can't just ask what you want in people,
because we are all 'unique', right?


cylia loves smiles

I think you know what I’m getting at..
I find it so upsetting that, the memories that you select..
You keep the bad but the good you just forget..
And even though I’m angry, I can still say: I know my heart will break that day.
When you peel out and drive away.. I can’t believe this happened..
And all this time I never thought, that all we had would be all for none?

No, I don’t hate you..
Don’t want to fight you..
Know I’ll always love you..
But right now I just don’t like you..
Cause you took this too far..

This didn’t turn out the way I thought it would at all,
you blame me, but some of this is still your fault..
I tried to move you, but you just wouldn’t budge,
I tried to hold your hand but you’d rather hold your grudge!
I think you know what I’m getting at..
You said goodbye and I just don’t want you regretting that.
And wisdom always chooses, these black eyes and these bruises,
over the heartache that they say: never completely goes away
(I just can’t believe this happened and one day we’ll see this come around)

What happened to us?
I heard that it’s me we should blame..
What happened to us?
Why didn’t you stop me from turnin out this way..

And know that I don’t hate you
And know that I don’t want to fight you
And know I’ll always love you..
But right now I just don’t…

cylia loves smiles


p.s. lyrics is from Relient K!

She Loves Smiles: little words

I have something for you:

Spend your monthly salary this time not on a pair of shoes, new clothing or just new material things.. Money is something material also (though, money is crucial these days), and if you are living your life to the fullest, it would not harm to give out your money on something that'll lasts longer than any material thing. Maybe save 10 precent of your monthly salary for a college or an investment for greater good. And other things out of the ordinary like: pay the groceries of a stranger, buy something for someone who can't afford it.. you name it! As we step out of our comfort zone, we take our life to another level, we are getting closer to perfect (not perfect, as in perfect like the media says, but perfect in our own way.. Perfect with the feeling you are free as a bird and living, loving your life to the fullest).


And if money is scarce.. don't feel pushed my friend.
You will always have your own, lovely smile!
And bring that to others, let us see how great you really are..

We do not know where one smile can take someone,
Show kindness, you just might be thát fresh air for someone.
Love one another, love one another, love one another, love one another, love one another, love one another, love one another, love one another, love one another,



cylia loves smiles

"People who look down to a presence that’s different from their own is a hate that’s so sad to see happening. “Who are you?” “Where do you come from?” We don’t need to make any statements of these questions. As we built through this so-called ‘world’ we can’t stop by someone’s background. I will not answer. I will not let myself be stopped from having my fun; from having my piece of this ‘world’. Because I will not let you stop me from pursuing my goals. -Cylia"

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She Loves Smiles: little words

I have something for you:

Every morning we wake up to experience another day in our life. Every day you wake up another day, a new chance, a new smile, a new you. Why not Celebrate this even more?

1. Put a pen and a diary/notebook/piece of paper next to your bed or under your pillow, and when you feel you're on the tip of waking up: do not open your eyes! keep your eyes closed and write immidiately what you can remember about your dream(s). **It's easier to write down words instead of long sentences, as you are writing with your eyes closed.

And then, go Google your dream! (like: http://www.dreammoods.com/)

Your dreams are your deepest thoughts and what you really want in life.
But remember though, dreams are a intrepretation of all our thoughts: so, yes, dreams can be pretty odd.

2. Wake up and write somewhere or say out loud the people you keep close to your heart. Only mention the people who you really love and care for. **Good for those, who don't dare to say 'I love you,' 'I like you,' 'you mean more to me than you could ever imagine.'

(Think of at least 5 people, you can't limit yourself with just 2 persons or 1)

3. Wake up and put on a smile..

(Try it before you immidiately think of conclusions)

cylia loves smiles

"You cant hide your insecurity with brutality. -Cylia"

cylia loves smiles

She Loves Smiles: little words

I have something for you:

We are constantly fighting with either our real emotions or the world itself. Make a descison to surrender yourself and stop fighting it. As we see everyone around us, we must see that we are all, somehow, connected in any kind of way. We are friends. We are family. There's no such thing as a seperation between any human being, no; we are one. Don't be afraid and let every bit of control that's not meant to be for ourselves, go..

The experience of being happy and feeling the love that's really surrounding us, is a choice. It's a descison we'll have to make in our mind, so we'll be able to see love and happiness in every situation we might be in. And if we not give in to our own soul, we just keep striving for things that we think will make us happy.

Give yourself a chance and, maybe, you even have to make an appointment with yourself; to do what you really want to do. Do something fun: something you like to do, not something someone else would like you to do. Don't feel obligated to do something you're not familiar with, just do something out of the ordinary. To better your own, maybe, pretty good life already.

Beginning with once a week and then twice etc. We are always on the run and do not sit still what's really happening with our own life, and it's a waste if we take our life for granted like that.

It's a liberation that you'll only feel when you give yourself a chance.

And if your life is going well already, I just want to say: this is not about material things we own and not about the things Men made, it's about our own happiness. What we want and what makes us happy.

In this time we need help and we need others to let us know what's going on, and here I am, helping bit by bit; to make us more happy. Celebrate your life! Instead of hate it.

cylia loves smiles

i'm leaving my fingerprints..

see my fingerprints..

I have been down so low that people looked at me, and they knew.
nobody could read my p-p-p-pokerface muh muh muh muh..
with friends and lovers who come and go,
I've tried so hard to understand, but I can't, I held the world out in my hands and they ran away..
It was like a bad day that never ended I felt the chaos around me,
Too many tears have had to fall, don't they know I'm so tired of it all..
I was losing my balance on the tight rope, tell me please, tell me please, tell me please...
If I ever would feel better?
and then I closed myself from the world..
Well I thought they were just evil..
They're just some racists,
Who couldn't tie my laces..
Their point of view is medevil!
(Fuck you, fuck you very, very much. Cuz we hate what you do and we hate your whole crew.. So please don't stay in touch)
Act like you can't tell who made this.. New gospel homey, take six, and take this, haterssss...
but i know that God put you in front of me, so how the hell could you front on me?
noww that that don't kill me, can only make me stronger!
work it harder, make it better. dot it faster, makes us stronger...
You think you got it all worked out.
But you dont know nothing, nothing, nothing
You think that you could rub me out,
But I'm made of something, something, something
I could teach you a thing or two (Yeah oh yeah oh)
I could teach you a thing or two (Yeah oh yeah oh)
blabber on I blabber on, stare empty at a wall and make it try to sing along..
carry on I carry on.
But I have this dream right inside of me, I'm gonna let it show,
it's time to let everybody know..
This is REAL! This is ME!
I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be now..
gonna let the light shine on me!

discover your own fingerprints..

cylia loves smiles


p.s. yes, 90 precent of the sentences are from lyrics of music artists (james morrison - wonderful world, lady gaga - pokerface, paramore - all we know, phoenix - if i ever feel better, lily allen - guess who batman, kanye west - stronger, luciana - yeah yeah, girl in a coma - their cell, demi lovato - this is me)

She Loves Smiles: little words

hmm.. what to do today, to make this world a better place? I have something for you:

Just ask your neighbour or when you come across a friend you haven’t seen or spoken to in a while, how they are doing. It’s a little effort that has huge, positive consequences.. Just like a lot of other little things in life. So think a little bit more what you should do, before you quickly walk past someone who seems a bit down or lost. Everybody deserves to be happy, and by starting with the little things, we will slowly come out of this constant fear we’re living in. Ask a simple question: ‘how are you doing today?’

cylia loves smiles

SMILE!

put your best smile on! And work itttt!
post your own lovely SMILE!

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Cylia Loves Smiles

Hey, you, lovely person, coming across my page!
my name is Cylia, and,
I would like to welcome you @ a place where only smiles are allowed,
of course, you can frown here and there,
but it's not necessary.

I started this page because I want to make this world a better place also,
and by starting at the very beginning is the smile upon our faces.
don't you just love a genuine smile? well, i do. and you?
we are living in a world where we can't avoid the pressure of a daily life that easily,
and with all the stress going on..
just makes you want to go SCREAMMMM! (just here, once in a while)
i want to connect ourselves with each other again,
and let ourselves know, that life really begins when you start to feel the love instead of the hate.
the love you've been given and the love you've given.

lovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelovelove

and with love there comes smiles,
our smiles. your smile. her smile and his smile.
and how i love smiles.
just put your name infront of Loves Smiles.

and spread the word..

thanks,
cylia loves smiles