Sunday, February 8, 2009

She Loves Smiles: little words

I have something for you:

today I'm going to write my little words beginning with the basics again.. What got us here today? What or who made us feel loved? Who are we?

through all our struggles, through all our hate, through all our emotions, through all our love, we always seem to say: 'I can't help it, that is just the way I am.' In some kind of way we can't help it, because of the fact we are human beings.

we are human beings, as in: humanity is insecure, which is another word for fear, fear is caused by the main fact human long for being accepted and we will be accepted through love and love comes back to God: God is love.

We can't do anything about being a victim of circumstances that may occure, but we can choose if we want to stay a victim.

Sometimes we do not realize how much we've weakened through all our years on this very planet and might not see how much damage we have caused to others or ourselves. It's always like we know better, but we do worse.. we just expect God to do magic..

When believing in God, it does not mean He can make away all of our negative experiences, but we can walk by his side! You will succeed.

Another thing is: why are we resistant to God?
Let me ask you: Is God good? Does God speaks the truth? Does God radiates only positivity? Does God gives us what we want (when obeying the right rules)?
The answer in the back of your head might go immidiately to a Yes.
Then why are you resistant then?
you know what, we are just afraid to lose control..
lose control over whatever happends, whenever, wherever.

When we fail in whatever what happends in our lives, we must know that it is not God's purpose to let us fail, but it takes somewhat to succeed..

God understands us.

If we have problems, secrets, things that make us feel ashamed.. don't hide it. Because this is exactly what Satan wants us to do.. keep it save somewhere locked up in our minds, keep our masks on.. Think about how much it will hurt you: the only one suffering is you.
What about: admit your problems and ask for help.

We are human and God is good.. we are not bad, but vulnerable.

I mean, why not listen to the words of God? What is a couple of years of a life of enternity?? (which you will get when believing in our saviour) Bow to God when you are asked to bow to someone else.

It's not our fault the world is dirty and we are vulnerable..

We are the dirty ones, but He has the power to clean us. Go start running to God and not from God. Whenever you made a confession last week, last week confession does not do anything for today's sin. Self-control is an example of something that you see in us; how God lives in us.

A lot of people struggle with shame.. and this will effect the relationship with God. and in times like these, it's easier to know that God is by our side. Our goal is always self-control.. It's not all about that you stumble and fall, but that you get up and don't give up.
And it's not to get rid of the problem, but how you manage it.

He's a good Father and we are right to ask.

Wishful thinking is not what Christianity is about..

when things are going slow.. don't be unpatient.. it took us 20 years to be 20 years or it took 40 years to be 40.. you get the point.. it could not go any faster.

It's also like being a parent, you can get mad at your daughter or get irritated, but she can not make you love her more.. She might never know how much you love her.
Until she gets her own children and comes back running to you: 'Ohh, now I get it!'

You know, what we see as right or wrong, is different with each and one of us.. Our perception of the world is our reality.. We might not always know what we need, but God knows Everything.

When in times of grieve, or sadness, confusion or any negativity don't go dig deep when you don't know it for sure, wait until it's clear. Because you will come to ridiculous conclusions..

He is good and wants us to be clean and not full of poison.

Oh, and if something did not happen yet, we should keep our heads help up high, because yet is a very important word..

And when God touched us, we start to think: 'And now you go start to touch me, after I've gone through all these negative things?' But you know what, now, maybe ten years later you have gotten so much more and you have experienced so much other things.. you would not have this if you would've gone through another path.

We are hunger for love.. someone who's really hungry, even the bitter thing will taste good. So many people settle for less.. For example: have lots of sex with different people, to feel loved..
but we do not just want that kind of love, we really want someone to put his arm around us and say everything will be ok.

But what is love? we immidiately think about passion, the feeling, sex etc. But the word 'Love' is overused.. because we love our dog, we love swimming, we love travelling, we love our mom, we love this and that.. To love someone/something is to value it..

Value humanity, your neighbour, value someone else how you would like to be valued.
Because if you don't: whenever you will be alone, depressed and feel not okay and experienced negative things, you might not be valued by a specific someone in your life, or get help at all, because you did not valued another..

We want to be accepted.. we have a mask on.. We have to accept the fact that people will always be sceptic about us.. We should not worry if we would take our masks off.. we immidiately think: 'if people knew the worst of me, will they still love me??'

But you know what?
God knows all your secrets, all your flaws, but God still loves you!
He rather haves you messy than not at all.

We have to know that we are already accepted by God, we don't have to be perfect and then run to God. Thank you Jesus, that you value us.

we are happy with the ones who are happy, and we grieve with the ones who grieve.. we don't always do that in this generation.. as I already told: human beings feel insecure. Satan then gets a hold on our jealousy and envy.. we try to get what other have.. but God will not give you what others have.. You can fail if you envy other people.

If someone is happy, but to you it's already old news about the reason he/she is happy, still share this happiness with him/her, because this specific person may just come out of a very harsh period.. you never know. We value other people, because He valued us first.

And what about: 'But it's not fair! She/He gets way more than what I get!' God has no favourites.. or don't you believe Him?

There are no words to make pain stop, but we can put our arms around them to help..
Why? Because we value them.

In a world of pain, we sometimes doubt our values and if we put our arm around someone and see their pain, we will value them: isn't that beautiful?

We don't have to go back..
because we got something way bigger and way better! Let's celebrate life!

thank you.



cylia loves smiles

Thursday, February 5, 2009

She Loves Smiles: little words

I have something for you:

When we are just either not in the mood or just aren't happy at a certain moment and we see people smiling (at us) or being genuinely happy around us.. it just sometimes makes us feel a little bit icky.

But why can't we just be happy for those (strangers)? Is there some sort of constant rivalry we're in? Is it the fear of being.. what? Being alone? Not loved? Not be like the 'perfect' image the media has set for us? There should not be any fear for these.

Lets lay it down a little bit more practical..

whenever we even go out of our own home, we make sure our outfits, hair and make-up are either picture perfect or atleast presentable to others.
Without showing us to the outside world, we are already giving ourselves so much anxiety to be like a certain image or else we feel totally out of place.
Because what are we in the end.. with all the clothes, money, fake this and fake that?
material things will eventually slip away..
so lets built up an inner strength that'll last forever.

and if we go to school/work, especially at school, there will always be this constant tension between who's prettier than who? At school there will be things done (besides schoolwork) just because some of us look a certain way.. Why? Is he/she prettier than him/her? Why? does she have more blond hair, bigger boobs and more expensive clothes than you? Does he have a six pack, better hair, bigger mouth and has it going on with the ladies? Why is this intimidating to some of us? These people who are, according to the media, the perfect people, should not be intimidating to us at all. Just like famous people, they are just people, like us.

We are led to believe that whatever the media says to us is the right thing to do or the right way to look: NO, not at all. get this outta your head, missy/mister. There is way more that meets the eye to us and to the world itself. When we see the bigger picture and come to a point where we will embrace the love and the hate thats surrounding us, we will shine so bright: absolutely breathtaking. But it's a choice, God gave us choices, it's eventually up to you.

Ive said it so many times and I say it again: Love is the answer. Such a little word, but has so much great, beautiful consequences.

we can whine about the stupidest and smallest things.. really, so much love to embrace.. why do we keep embracing the bad and the fears we have in the back of our minds? When we experience negativity.. we must not be overwhelmed by it.. we will be a true winner when we will not for even the slightest second think about giving up and knowing that going through our struggles will give us ultimate strength.

if we don't change.. we will not grow.. and that means we are standing still.. and that means things will not change.. and if we are not growing, we are not really living our lives.

whatever you are going through, how weird people may respond to things, how fast circumstances might change, how fearful we might live our lives.. do not forget that:


you are so special.. so unqiue.. you can reach the impossible.. you are so, so worth it!



cylia loves smiles